We're on a quest to squelch the time we devote to stupid arguments.
We're not anti-argument; we're anti-stupid-argument. And 99% of our arguments are pretty stupid.
Through a lot of experiments in giving these spats less air time, we've learned one thing. We're most successful on our quest when one of us can snap out of it for a second and see the ridiculousness in what we're feuding over. The problem is that – in a typical argument – the ego is engaged, so it's difficult to be rational.
I'm happy to report that we're making progress. One of us will typically stop (fairly quickly) and recognize the absurd road we are heading down. Seeing that one of us is not buying into the nonsense, the other one of us will rapidly follow suit.
I'd rather lose an argument than get into a long discussion in order to win it. –Rafael Nadal