It’s Mailbag Monday!
Since most of the content here on NVR is inspired by the questions we get, we've decided to really embrace it. Rather than crafting posts with these questions as our muse, we’re going to cut the pretense and cop to the fact that we’re answering a question. Staying true to NVR’s vibe, we’ll pretty much stick to our take on questions that relate to maximizing life, work, and travel. We also have a few zingers that we want to address. Have a question? Send it off!
Q: You guys always talk about doing “what you should be doing in life.” What if that’s not practical?
A: Yes, we’re always talking about figuring yourself out and doing what you should be doing in life.
Not surprisingly, that concept is daunting to many people. Let’s face it… It’s tough enough to make a living in this cutthroat economy. Understandably, many people don’t see it as particularly realistic to do "exactly what they should be doing."
Sure, you can go through life just "payin' the bills." We both did that for long enough and survived just fine. But surviving isn't thriving. And when you aren't thriving, there is dissonance. To relieve yourself of the dissonance – that nagging, unsettled feeling that comes from somehow being "off track" – is incredibly rewarding.
And just to review other stuff we’re always saying:
1) You can learn to do pretty much anything well.
2) There’s a difference between learning to do something well and using skills that you have a natural talent for.
3) The idea is to funnel your learning and development into becoming more skilled at what you’re naturally talented at.
Yes, this includes you. We’re all naturally talented at certain things.
Okay, so there are many reasons to make the investment to get on track. No matter where you’re at in your life, you should always be making progress towards knowing yourself better and aligning that self-awareness with what you do to make a living.
Yes, sometimes you're at a time in your life when you just need to make some moolah. Maybe you’ve been through a breakup, maybe you’ve moved – any number of things can derail you. Whatever the case, don’t use a setback or a temporarily icky situation as an excuse to keep from moving closer to doing what you came here to do.
Here's a relatively simple way to get started on the right path. Whether or not you are making a living doing the "right" thing for you, always be working towards determining what your right thing is or – if you know your right thing – honing that skill set. Three basic ideas:
Join a group.
Take a class.
Secure a mentor.
That way, you'll be fully prepared with the right (or next) great opportunity presents itself.